We were not happy. Not happy at all. Things did not go the way we thought they would for our daughter, and as her parents, it was hard not to show our disappointment. Hope had worked hard to achieve her goal through years of experience and extra training, but somehow all that didn’t matter to the decision makers. They chose someone else. And not only was she, but Greg and I were also heartbroken.
So, we decided not to fake it. The words of my pastor came to mind, “sometimes you just have to call a spade a spade”, and this was the perfect opportunity to put that advice into action. We stated the fact of how unfair the situation was as we cried together and yelled a little. We didn’t try to sugar-coat it or say trite expressions like, “this too shall pass”, “we know how you feel” or “try to be strong”. We pretty much just said that it stunk, and we were so sorry. We called this “spade a spade” for a couple of days, but then we felt God nudging us to move on. We acknowledged the fact that God knew it would happen this way all along. It was not what we wanted, but it was clearly His plan. And now, there was a choice to make. We could continue to be unhappy about the way things turned out, or we could try to find the joy in what God has in store, and trust Him. You know, “trust” is an easy thing to talk about in concept, but harder to actually live out. But Hope decided to take a step forward, and trust. Trust God who she’s experienced as faithful in her life, and read of His faithfulness in the pages of the Bible. Trust that even though it doesn’t feel good, God ultimately knows what’s best for her. And trust in the truth that when we forget the yuck and decide to press on toward the bigger goal, the one God has planned for us, that’s when we really come out as the winner.
“BUT ONE THING I DO: FORGETTING WHAT IS BEHIND AND STRAINING TOWARD WHAT IS AHEAD, I PRESS ON TOWARD THE GOAL TO WIN THE PRIZE FOR WHICH GOD HAS CALLED ME HEAVENWARD IN CHRIST JESUS.” PHILIPPIANS 3:13,14